When people use the term snowflake unironically, just remember they're quoting Fight Club, a satire written by a gay man about how male fragility causes men to destroy themselves, resent society and become radicalized. and that Tyler Durden isnt the hero but a personification of the main character's deep insecurities, and that his snowflake speech is a dig at how fascists use dehumanizing language to breed loyalty from insecure people.
@jacethechicken narcissism is an aspect of this too. the protagonist sees himself as the main character in his own movie (...) and insists the film be one that gives him the kind of role he feels he deserves, and all his actions and interactions are to this end throughout. the narrative structure of the movie we see parallels the narrative structure of the one he constructs for himself. he needs a villain, so he invents one; a love interest, so he finds one, etc.
@jacethechicken not that we don't all use stories to contextualize ourselves, of course, but for a narcissist the story one constructs for oneself doesn't suffice; they require others to see them as they see themselves, even - especially - when their words and actions tell a very different story of them. "who are you going to believe, me or your own lying eyes?"
this is why narcissists are such toxic and dangerous people - why they make such good abusers, and such good fascists too.
violence, fascism, narcissism
@jacethechicken after all, violence is an effective tool for forcing the people around one to at least convincingly pretend they see one as one demands to be seen. but the individual abuser can only do so much, whereas fascism, as an ideological genus which enshrines redemptive violence as a tool for forcing its story on *everyone*, offers much broader scope, and that has an appeal of its own for those who seek to do so already.
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