When people use the term snowflake unironically, just remember they're quoting Fight Club, a satire written by a gay man about how male fragility causes men to destroy themselves, resent society and become radicalized. and that Tyler Durden isnt the hero but a personification of the main character's deep insecurities, and that his snowflake speech is a dig at how fascists use dehumanizing language to breed loyalty from insecure people.
@jacethechicken narcissism is an aspect of this too. the protagonist sees himself as the main character in his own movie (...) and insists the film be one that gives him the kind of role he feels he deserves, and all his actions and interactions are to this end throughout. the narrative structure of the movie we see parallels the narrative structure of the one he constructs for himself. he needs a villain, so he invents one; a love interest, so he finds one, etc.
@jacethechicken that's why he has such a problem with her seeing him at the support groups: it interferes with how he goes there to see himself.
this narcissism plays easily into fascism as well, because its ability to construct a compelling manichaean narrative, and its encouragement for adherents and would-be adherents to do so within its precepts, makes it perhaps uniquely useful among ideological genera to fulfill the narcissist's need for story as a means of contextualizing the self.
@solder_on @jacethechicken that said, we'd argue very strongly against the idea that "a fragment of the MC's self" equals "not real". or, at least, if that's true then no one's "self" is "real", except inasmuch as they affect the reality we all to some greater or lesser extent share. that, we can get behind, but the idea that there exists some platonically indivisible "real self" of which some aspects exist and others are mere delusion, needs many questions answered to become at all plausible
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this resonates for us in a personal way, tbh. we created one another out of the person who was here before, because he was in a place where no one did love him, or would, and if we didn't do something about that we were going to die. we invented ourselves to help each other make ourself whole, and we did and do just that
the protag of the movie, though...
@solder_on @jacethechicken ...which also checks out for a narcissist, really. manipulation requires understanding how people work well enough to know what levers to pull, but if a person like that ever really sees what they've made of themself without having a story - a lie - to filter it through, they won't be able to exist as what they are any longer, and will have to change in some way - won't be able to *not*.
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